So this morning I got an email from LDS living....I'm not sure how or when I signed up for these but they randomly show up. The title for this email was Keeping Marriage Magic Alive. It seems like we have been having more Meetings and lessons about healthy marriages lately. As I was reading it, there was a part I had heard before: President Kimball counseled, “Many couples permit their marriages to become stale and their love to grow cold like old bread or worn-out jokes or cold gravy. . . .
I remember reading that with Kevin and we laughed about the cold gravy part. I sure hope our marriage doesn't become like that or molded leftovers or stinky wet fur for that matter. A question for all of you.....what do you do to keep your marriage from becoming stale?
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Sandra-
I love what you have done with your blog. And reading the Marriage thing reminded me about a poem that Ben and I were given when we got married....
Most people get married believing a myth; that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for-companionship, sexual fulfillment, intimacy, friendship. The truth is that marriage, at the start, is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in mariage; love is in people, and people put it into marriage. There is no romance in marriage; people have to infuse it into their marriages A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving. serving. praising- keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will empty.
I don't know who the author is but I've always loved it and tried to give it to people I know when they get married.
Since we live in the middle of nowhere, our *dates* are at home after the kids go to bed. We do home projects together, play board games, watch movies or our favorite show "The Office" or "American Idol", and we're trying to implement reading together (parenting books, five love languages, that HUGE Marriage and Family book from the distribution center, etc.) But haven't gotten past the first chapter in anything yet.
We're going to start working on a digital scrapbook for Brayden's baptism (and then upload it to Shutterfly and have it printed) so hopefully that will be fun for us to "remember" the past 8 years.
There's also a cool little book at Deseret Book that has FHE idea's for couples; it's been awhile since I looked through it, but it seems like there were some fun idea's for starting conversations, or keeping your marriage from becoming stale.
Sandra,
I just bought us the Couples FHE book that Felicia mentioned. It has so many great ways to reconnect with your spouse. I think too often couples get stuck thinking of themselves as "mom and dad" and forget to nurture the couple relationship.
Dates help too. :)
i guess one way Randy and I reconnect is we like to try new restaurants when we get to go out. Some of our relatives (the old married ones) keep going to the same 3 restaurants. It's so boring! To me it is a sign that we are interested enough in our dates to still appreciate new things to do together even if it just dinner. and sometimes we get each other random gifts, just little things but making a big deal of the surprise waiting at home is a lot of fun.
We put the kids to bed early and then we talk or watch a movie or play a game. It is a lot of fun. We haven't been good at the dating thing but at least we spend time together.
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